And it's, and it's really difficult to navigate that.
I don't like the word Co parent though, because I
tell you why, because Co implies to me that it's
5050 and I don't believe it ever is unless it's
really interesting.
There are some anomalies.
And there are men who write to me who are
like, I don't like the fact you say that.
And there are definitely some men pulling the main bulk
of the work, but in majority of cases, the kind
of unspoken silent mental load that a mother does.
And usually time wise, it's not 5050 either.
I'm not saying that I don't think that my children's
father is amazing, but I think it's quite important that
we actually acknowledge what's actually happening, which is that women
are doing too much.
And so I don't use the word Co parent.
I say, Oh, my kids go to their dads a
few nights a week And I'm so happy that they
do that and that they've got a lovely father and
great, but let's not over compliment them because they do
get that all the time.
I was like so grateful that he's not an awful
father abandoner and he shouldn't be.
Like, let's not over applaud them actually parenting.